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Goodbye 2012, Come on Down 2013!

Here we are. End of the year. I think lists are appropriate today.

Most Rewarding Parts of 2012

  1. Increasing confidence in myself, even though I thought it could go no higher (really, I was pretty confident already)
  2. Building a better future for my family
  3. Hitting some goals–new car, make money with new business, pay off a couple debts
  4. Starting the most amazing, most promising, best thing that ever happened to me business (even though technically that was 2011 by a few days)
  5. Building a better relationship with one of my siblings (which really turned into 3 of them because we are all on this journey together)
  6. Not throttling said sibling during the first year of growing pains (really, an accomplishment–she would say the same)
  7. Seeing one child start school, and watching him thrive and grow up so much already
  8. Seeing the other child start to calm down…wait, no…no, not really. He’s still a head-to-toe energy source. Should really plug into him to run the house on kinetic energy.

Most Challenging Parts of 2012

  1. Finding the balance I talked about yesterday. You have to stick with it, and it is not even close to being easy while discovering it.
  2. Learning that while you would be there and do anything for friends and family, not all of them would do the same for you.
  3. Severing contact with some of those people mentioned in #2. You can’t keep around the people that are waiting to see you fail.
  4. Starting the most amazing, most promising, best thing that ever happened to me business. Yep, this is on both lists. While it is one of the most rewarding, it was definitely the most challenging. The first year of any business is spent laying a foundation, failing over and over again, finding what works and what doesn’t, increasing your network of contacts, building your credibility, putting in a LOT of sweat equity, and continuously keeping the belief that you can do it, you just have to stick with it. If you haven’t failed yet, then you aren’t trying hard enough.
  5. Switching childcare providers mid-year. It was sudden, it was a little heartbreaking because the boys had grown up with the first one, but they transitioned well to the new one, and are thoroughly enjoying being around other kids and learning.
  6. Seeing my older boy go to kindergarten. You don’t get the feeling until you experience it. While I didn’t cry about him growing up, I did shed a tear about being ‘that much older’, having a kid in school.

Goals and Things to Look Forward to in 2013

  1. An exponential growth in business and income
  2. Quitting my J.O.B. (just over broke)
  3. Paying off the remainder of debt
  4. Meeting more new friends
  5. Meeting new business partners and helping them grow, while still supporting current ones
  6. Taking a real vacation with the family (haven’t done that since Ryan turned 1–Disney is on the list of destinations)
  7. Staying home after #2 and being able to be there when the kids get home from school, volunteer at the school, put the boys in activities, etc.
  8. Start painting. I’ve always enjoyed drawing, though I haven’t done it in ages, and pencils are usually my medium, but I think I would like to try some acrylics. My home needs some color.
  9. Finish writing my novel (fiction, drama-romance), start on new one based on Mom’s life growing up (the things we learn when we listen to stories)
  10. Continuing to develop and grow myself, always striving to be a better daughter, sister, wife, mother, friend, and businesswoman.

I think that about covers my year. What about you? How did your 2012 compare to your 2011? What will your 2013 hold for you?

The Age-old Battle: Love vs Money

The holiday season brings about lots and lots of TV movies, most of which have an ending of the man or the woman rushing back to find the love they left behind, for various reasons.

Let’s examine this, shall we? This being the end of the year and all, when people evaluate how they spent their year, I think it is fitting.

Some people define success as having a lot of money. Some say it is having love in your life. I say, why not both? They are equally important. You can’t place a higher value on one over the other; its like comparing kiwis to bananas. Doesn’t make sense.

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How I Spent the Friday Afternoon Before My Christmas Work Vacation

also known as Can We Please Get the Hell Out of Here? No One is Calling Us Today.

I got a lot of work done this morning. Lots. Crammed it all in before my week-long vacation.

Too bad the afternoon didn’t get the memo. (It’s not a memo, it’s a mission statement!)

My afternoon was spent scrolling past hideous images and hilarious commentaries on various sites.

You’re welcome.

Cake Wrecks (the wedding cakes are my faves)

Pinterest, You Are Drunk



An Alternative to Feeling Helpless – #26Acts

So we all know what happened last Friday. Everyone knows. I find it very difficult to talk about, namely because my older son is 6 years old, and it is an automatic reaction to place yourself in that situation. It is unbearable. It is easier for me to avoid the coverage and discussion in order to save my own sanity. So I have.

Last night on The Voice, the entire cast did an opening number of Hallelujah by Leonard Cohen. They happened to do my favorite verses (not the popularly-used ones, after the initial one). Each performer was holding a card with the name and age of a victim. That made me lose my shit. Seeing it in black and white is the most difficult thing, ever. I spent the rest of the 90 minutes basically sobbing. Hell, as I sit here recounting it, I need a tissue.

This morning, a friend posted this article on Facebook: #26Acts of Kindness (thanks Nina).

This I can do. This I can bear. Performing a random act of kindness for 26 people is not only feasible, but uplifting and positive. I can’t do anything about what happened. But I can absolutely help change the energy in the universe. I learned recently that the universe can be a powerful thing, and you need to use it wisely. This is how I will do so.

This week, leading up to Christmas, I will be doing these 26 acts of kindness, and reporting every single one here. I will involve my kids, as well. I’m not sure that I’m strong enough to relate each one to a particular victim in writing, but I will know in my heart it is for each one. When those 26 are complete, I will make it a point to do at least one act of kindness per week, to keep up the energy flow.

I challenge you to participate in this movement. Whether you use Twitter, Facebook, LinkedIn, Tumblr, blogs, or hell, buy a billboard and take a picture of it, I challenge you to 26 Acts of Kindness, and report it somehow. Post in these comments, if you’d like. But I want to see it happen. We have to take control back. We have to appreciate our lives, and appreciate others’. If we don’t start with ourselves, we have no business trying to help everyone else.

*as a note, please do NOT post about needing more gun control, less gun control, political views, etc. I will not appreciate it, and it will not be approved by me. Talking gets you nowhere, and fighting pushes you backward. Measurable action is what moves us forward.

Trying to come up with a post about last Friday’s events without intermittently tearing up. Difficult to do at work. Lots of thoughts, all rough. May have to wait until I’m home.