I don’t often read these things on my FB wall, as there are so, so many, and they all have a similar tone, but I’ve seen this one in a couple ways now, and thought I would share.
Let’s call it a break from my RPO stories.
This hit a little close to home, though I can’t say that my boys asked to buy time with me. The other day, my younger son was counting the money in his piggy bank. He had a few $20 bills and a couple $10, and a lot of change. I was helping him put money back in, and he pulled a $20 and a $10 from the pile and set it aside. We put the rest in, and I said, ‘You forgot some.’ He handed it to me and said, ‘I want to give this to you, for the store. You need it.’
After I got over my shock, and resisted allowing the tears to come to the surface, I realized that he must have heard us talking about what we could spend at the grocery store, or something like that. Not that we NEED the extra $30 he was giving me, but in his child’s mind, Mommy and Daddy don’t have enough money, I have some, I’ll share it with them to help the family.
Can you imagine that? I don’t recall ever having these thoughts when I was younger, but then again, I don’t know that my parents ever really said ‘We can’t afford it’, they just made things happen, or convinced us we wanted something cheaper. I despise having to tell my children that phrase.
Read this story, and see if it hits you. If it does, you may want to catch up on my RPO stories, and see if you should start looking for a different way. There is nothing wrong with working hard, but who are you truly working for?
SON: “Daddy, may I ask you a question?”
DAD: “Yeah sure, what is it?”
SON: “Daddy, how much do you make an hour?”
DAD: “That’s none of your business. Why do you ask such a thing?”
SON: “I just want to know. Please tell me, how much do you make an hour?”
DAD: “If you must know, I make $100 an hour.”
SON: “Oh! (With his head down).
SON: “Daddy, may I please borrow $50?”
The father was furious.
DAD: “If the only reason you asked that is so you can borrow some money to buy a silly toy or some other nonsense, then you march yourself straight to your room and go to bed. Think about why you are being so selfish. I work hard everyday for such this childish behavior.”
The little boy quietly went to his room and shut the door.
The man sat down and started to get even angrier about the little boy’s questions. How dare he ask such questions only to get some money?
After about an hour or so, the man had calmed down, and started to think:
Maybe there was something he really needed to buy with that $ 50 and he really didn’t ask for money very often. The man went to the door of the little boy’s room and opened the door.
DAD: “Are you asleep, son?”
SON: “No daddy, I’m awake”.
DAD: “I’ve been thinking, maybe I was too hard on you earlier. It’s been a long day and I took out my aggravation on you. Here’s the $50 you asked for.”
The little boy sat straight up, smiling.
SON: “Oh, thank you daddy!”
Then, reaching under his pillow he pulled out some crumpled up bills. The man saw that the boy already had money, started to get angry again. The little boy slowly counted out his money, and then looked up at his father.
DAD: “Why do you want more money if you already have some?”
SON: “Because I didn’t have enough, but now I do.
“Daddy, I have $100 now. Can I buy an hour of your time? Please come home early tomorrow. I would like to have dinner with you.”
The father was crushed. He put his arms around his little son, and he begged for his forgiveness. It’s just a short reminder to all of you working so hard in life. We should not let time slip through our fingers without having spent some time with those who really matter to us, those close to our hearts. Do remember to share that $100 worth of your time with someone you love? If we die tomorrow, the company that we are working for could easily replace us in a matter of days. But the family and friends we leave behind will feel the loss for the rest of their lives. And come to think of it, we pour ourselves more into work than to our family.
Some things are more important.
(End note: The point is NOT that family is more ‘important’ than money. Money is just as important as oxygen, and to try to order importance of money, time, and love is like ordering importance of a home, a car, and food. Yep, just as ridiculous. The point here is that if love/family is more important to you than WORK, you may want to find different sources of MONEY.)